So, let’s talk about Meghan Trainor’s relatively new song “NO”
When I first heard it, I was not a very big fan of how it sounded – and now (surprise, surprise) it is in my iTunes library. I have to admit, it is a lot of fun to sing along to with one of my best friends (because, as sassy as we are, the song makes us 10 times more sassy).
But I feel as if it has a core message that is good to get out there.
And the message is this… If a guy is pressuring you to do something you don’t want to do, it is absolutely okay to say NO.
And give them a good hard stomp ‘Princess Mia-style’ if the situation calls for it. (I mean, obviously if it’s to go sky-diving or try a new food or something like that you might want to lay off the Princess Mia-stomp – you might even want to *gasp* do it)
This next suggestion might be hard, but if he continues to pressure you, don’t wait until things go from him asking to him taking. Exit the relationship in a timely fashion. And talk to an adult that you trust if you need any help or if the situation gets out of control.
I was watching a Little House on the Prairie episode and Almanzo (dear, sweet Manly) had proposed to Laura. Her father asked them to wait two years before they got married; not because of the age difference (They were 10 years apart) but because his daughter — his little half-pint — was young and he wanted her to be sure Almanzo was the man she wanted to spend the rest of her life with. (Spoiler alert… HE IS)
Laura came back with “Pa, if waiting two years means I’m going to lose him, I won’t do it.” And do you know what I said back to that TV? “Girl, if he won’t wait two years for you, he ain’t worth your time!” [meaning] if the man really loves you, he will wait for you.
Now, obviously we shouldn’t string the poor guy along by making him wait for a ridiculous amount of time, but the truth is, ladies… If they really do love and respect you, they will wait for you. And while they wait they will make you feel all the more cherished and respected.
Do you know how?
Because of the knowledge that they are willing to wait for you!
I read something on Pinterest the other day that said
“A gentleman will open doors, pull out chairs, and carry her bags. Not because she’s helpless or unable, but because he wants to show her that she is valuable and worthy of respect.”
Because guess what? You are a daughter of the One True King. Which makes you a Princess. And the right guy will treat you like one – In public and in private.
P.S. Don’t forget to enjoy being respected! If a guy holds open the door for you, hold your head high — and don’t forget to say thank you!
Written by Victoria Richardson